On the Ninth Day of Christmas my true love gave to me… a pair of binoculars. Our present day situations, especially when they aren’t going the way we’d like them to, can be quite disturbing. Take my present day situation. As clichest as this sounds, sometimes I feel like I’m always running behind because there’s so much on my TO DO list that just looking at it overwhelms me and like a little kid trying to hurry up and get his food down so he can go outside and play, I’m cramming things in. My Ninth day is late, not because I didn’t do it, but because I didn’t have enough time, or rather I didn’t allow enough time to post it. This is no huge mark on the TO DO list of life but for a perfectionist like me, it’s a HUGE deal. I don’t mind so much the slow process (microwaving is not really my thing) but it as to be RIGHT. You can imagine the havoc this wreaks on my ADD, something not yet accomplished (can you hear my heart racing?), the bigger picture not really coming into focus for me and yes, a mini-nervous breakdown may just follow. As a perfectionist, it’s hard to grasp that what lies before you is just temporary and something bigger is just around the corner, but you just have to wait and work with what you have now. (Heavy sigh) This is one character quirk that I could do without but then I guess I wouldn’t really be me. Like blurry vision after eye dilation, lingering gas from anesthesia or bad breath after eating Spicy Doritos; uncomfortable situations and circumstances are only temporary. Now, if we could only say the same for hair color.
Ability or Permission, that is the question: Senior level employees are often like parents, I know we are my place of employment. We never let a learning opportunity pass us by. I take great pleasure when my employees ask if they can do something. The most popular ones are – Can I leave early? Can I have these days off? Often we get complaints because they feel they are being mistreated because they feel their request has fallen on deaf ears and thus the lesson begins. One lesson I learned early from my Gert (my grandmother) is that you (#1) don’t give answers to statements. Example, and one I hear often at work, “Roku offered to give me a ride home.” In the past, my leads would get all upset and start answering the implied, yet unasked question veiled in this statement. While it is nice that Roku has offered them a ride home, they haven’t asked anything, have they? So, since no question was asked, no answer need be given. Seems a bit harsh I know.
Many of them will say, I thought they knew what I meant (lesson #2) no one knows what you meant unless you either explain it to them or they tell you they understand what you’re trying to say. If you want something, ask for it. So, stating Roku offered to give you a ride home will elicit the following response – Ok, Great, That’s nice. Yeah, yeah, I know, seems a bit tricky but the truth and fact of the matter is, no question was asked. So, once this lesson is learned, the harder lesson comes into play. Can I leave early? Can equals ability. May equals permission. May I leave early, is what needs to be said. In my line of work, proper English lessons aren’t a requirement but knowing the difference makes the employee more responsible for their actions. Not being smart, just getting them to say what they mean and ask for what they want, period. Having the ability to do something and having permission to do something are apples and steaks; 2 completely different things. My point is, when we ask for something, be it from God, employer, parents, friends, whomever, we need to be clear of our desires and not leave it up to their interpretation. Do you have a vision board? You know, that thing where you put your desires on display. Normally, the vision board is big and is noticed right away when someone walks into the room where it resides. God told Habakkuk – Write this.
“Write what you see. Write it out in big block letters so that it can be read on the run.
This vision-message is a witness pointing to what’s coming. It aches for the coming—it can hardly wait! And it doesn’t lie. If it seems slow in coming, wait. It’s on its way. It will come right on time.” You have the Ability – Write it out and make it plain, and Permission – be specific and wait for it to come. Get excited about the arrival. God it slow but show(sure) You can’t get mad at God when he gives you what you asked for, when you didn’t give him any specifics. Makes me feel better about being so selective, persnickety, picky. God’s like Burger King. (If it’s in his will) you can have it your way! I asked God for some things, have them on my vision board. Some I’ve received already, others are in the queue. Regardless, I’m excitedly expecting to hear from Him. I wrote it in BIG RED LETTERS just like my grandma said.
Remember, Always find time…