Your reputation precedes you

Someone I know, our relationship is more than any “ship”I would ever hope to define and Webster doesn’t even come close.  She’s my “baby mama” or one of them but don’t even try to figure that out, lol.

Well, anywho, my buddy became unemployed; not fired but contract ended and thus began her journey through Whyville.  She was’t sad but I noted a bit of discouragement, particularly after an interview did not go as She had planned.  Having passed through Whyville a few times, I listened and offered her an umbrella that had recently been handed to me.

I was Netflix(ing) and chilling (not in the new age sense, I suppose) and I came across #deathtoselfie.  The title alone, compelled me to push select and thus the handing of the umbrella commenced.

I watched #deathtoselfie onNetflix but did anything but chill.  I so enjoyed this sermon because for the first time, I had an answer to a question that I’d long posed aloud to Abba…what did it mean when biblical scholars wrote and God said “I AM the God of Abraham, of Isaac, and of Jacob.” Well, Pastor Furtick surely was a light unto my path this day because I had such an A-HAAA moment that I chuckle now,  Pastor Furtick broke it down and as I interpreted it, when God was using this to get people to see ALL the sides of him and the way he can do and will do things and the types of people he covers based on the characteristics and actions of these 3 men.  When I emerged from my prayer closet, after having watched and listening to Pastor Furtick, I realized that not only is he the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, he is the God of me.  Now, I’m not too clear on Isaac but I get Abraham and thanks to Pastor Furtick, I got Jacob.

I thought about my friend and myself and our respective situations and was so excited for myself when I realized and received the message from Pastor Furtick.  Now, I’d always known that God doesn’t specialize in perfect people but there was/is something about this explanation that resonated with me.  The God of Jacob…the God of liars, cheats, thieves.  The God of the disappointed, lost, etc. you get the drift and when I got it, I felt the umbrella (covering) open up.  See, if you want to know how good something is, it’s all about word of mouth.  You have to get the right person (marketing) to make yourself known to the masses.

I’m still excited about this new discovery and sent my friend a text to let her know that not just God, but the God of Jacob was and is with her.  I have several names I call her but she knows who she is, you, may call her Jacob.

Love you TeeHee!!

What ails ya!!

 

 

Places Everyone

I was watching a PBS special and there was author Richard Leider speaking on “The Power of Purpose.”  In his presentation, he discussed the 4 roles he felt each person should have filled in their lives… a committed listener, a catalyst, a wise elder (at least 10 years older), and a wise younger (at least 10 years younger).

Most of us probably have at least one of the 4 roles filled and probably fill one or two roles in the lives of someone else.  The part of it that struck me was the committed listener.  Now in this media driven age, getting anyone to be a committed listener has become something of a glittered unicorn.  I myself, at times become so disconnected that I’ve taken to requesting people notify me if I should pay attention.  Not that I’m not paying attention but obviously, I’m not being a committed listener.

It’s not that what the person is saying isn’t important to me, not at all.  The content of their discussion and they themselves are important, but we (I) are often inundated with so much information that it becomes quite difficult to determine what and when to sift.  This self-inventory made me reflect on a conversation that I recently had with a friend.  As you know, I’m funny about titles – which is why I had and still have such a hard time with FB’s “friends” label – but she is a friend and I realized, she had become a committed listener for me and I didn’t have to tell her pay attention.

It’s not often that I have to request people to tell me if I need to pay attention, only when I find they’ve been talking for an extended period of time or I find myself distracted.  I believe in giving people my attention, particularly if they wish to discuss something that they have deemed important.  It is important and they are important, so as with all ships, it takes a crew to make it operate efficiently.  I met one of my wise elder’s during my undergrad years.  She worked in Financial Aid (some of us have plenty of stories to tell from that office!) and to this day, she continues to help guide me.  Initially, I didn’t particularly care for my wise younger, but now, I cannot imagine life without him.  Catalyst is a bit tricky because I’m so picky.  I tend to fill that role myself.  The Committed Listener seemed to be the most important and that role can be difficult to fill as well.  It is said that if you are the smartest person in your circle, you need to expand your circle quick.  Thing is, expansion is difficult when prospects are few.  I know of so many people that I encounter on a daily basis who employ uncommitted distractions as committed listeners.  Like any position, it is important to screen applicants carefully.  True, some people interview incredibly well and sometimes the luxury turns into a lemon.  These are the trials of life but like the melon thump test, if you listen committedly, I’m sure the right candidate will present themselves.

Try it yourself.  Do you have these roles filled in your life?  If no, do you want them filled?  If not, no need advertising if there isn’t a position available.  No need to keep applications on file, that creates clutter.  For those of you who follow my page, like my FB page, and in any other way support my efforts, I deeply thank you for being a committed listener.  As always, there is one committed listener who can and does fill all 4 roles for some of us.  During this Advent Season, I’m particularly glad and thankful for his mother, being the catalyst for my best committed listener.

What ails ya?

“Big” lil brother

There’s something to be said about looking “up” to younger siblings. I’m a coconut so they know it ain’t easy to impress (get through to) me but my #2 and #3 baby brothers are putting in the work.

My #1BB – Moosh Millionz is the most like me – creatively, so he’s like me, not easily impressed but every now and again, he gets a head nod from Big Sis!

My #2BB – M. Majid did me proud Tuesday. He got his marketing swagger ON.  Dude was as charismatic as Bill Clinton and as engaging as Tony Robbins.  He worked the room like a pro and it was his first time at the rodeo.  I think he’s stepping into his own and I’m honored to assist him in becoming a better winner.

My #3BB – J. Isaiah, is more like my kid, really. He continues to amaze and inspire me. He’s my future, future.  He enlightened me today and while I know he looks up to me, perhaps they all do, what he said struck me in such a way that Rheem(an) compelled me to write about it.

Getting my Jim Harbaugh mentality on: The Power of Exclusion. “Winners have the right to get better. The winners have the right to condition more, to be better [football players] and the losers have to go to the side. They go over there and stand [and watch the winners get better]. Winners keep playing. Winners advance to the next round, the next opportunity.” Jim Harbaugh  Some people just don’t want to get better. Some people just don’t want it and that is completely ok…for them. The Word says ” Those who have ears, let them hear” well, everybody who has ears can’t hear but if you have ears and can hear and/or refuse to hear, well, stop asking people “What’d they say?“!  Do us (winners) a favor – Get out of the way! Go stand over there, on the side and watch us (winners) get better (by putting in more work).  Even with putting in more work, there’s no guarantee that you’ll be a winner because there will always be someone smarter, faster, better, period.  It’s the drive and desire to be better that gives you the upper hand. I’m no football player but I have a pretty good stiffarm.  #allIdoiswin

A girl needs to be surrounded by good men.  I’ve got 3 of the best and even though they won’t tell you, I’m their favorite!  #gamessiblingsplay

 

Ephesians 5:28-29

I saw this on the opening credits of a Netflix film and had to share as it made me think of the book listed underneath.

“Each gifted man needs a gifted woman to help him to fulfill his objective, destiny and purpose in life. The male and the female should be of one mind in doing the work of God.” -Anonymous

Women are Kingmakers” – Wellington Boone

Guess now you know why it’s called Kingdom building.  Sadly, some women don’t know how to make kings and even sadder is some men don’t want to be kings.  The book I referenced is a quick read but it is so powerful that you might not be ready for it.  I wasn’t. Got to a certain point and papa’ and I were having a conversation and I had to put the book down.  Wasn’t ready for that part yet. See, if you know how to make a king, you can’t force the king to take the throne and far too many men abdicate the throne then get mad at the king for the rules they lay down.  Or, worse yet, the kingmaker is forced to play the role of king.  Sure, we are all kings in our own right but everything has a hierarchy.  Call it old fashion but a man is the head of the house.  A man’s home is his castle and castles have kings.  Kings take advice and counsel from the queen.  To have a happy castle the queen cannot take the role of king while the king is still able to rule.  There will be conflict.  To be king you have to want to be king.  Being king is a huge responsibility but with the right queen at your side your land will live in peace and harmony.

What I’ve come to understand is that the bible is one big puzzle that you have to link together.  28: “So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29: For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church,…”  When you add on “bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh” the puzzle starts to take shape.

If you let that steep in your mind and soul for a few: loving your wife as your own body.  In today’s society, some of us love ourselves so much we have no room for others because we love our body so much that that is all we show you.  NO hate or shade, I’m just point out the obvious.  If you’re a married man, ask yourself, “Do I love my wife like I love myself?”

I AM a kingmaker or at least I try to be.  Every woman’s king making skills are different but the common goal is the same.  If you’re a man, ask yourself, ‘Do I want to be a king?”  I use lowercase king because Jesus is the King of kings.  Who did you think he was referring to?

#ilovemyself  #knowyourrole  #stayinyourlane  #ilookgoodyoulookgood

What ails ya?

Avon calling.

Hello Dear Friend,

I hope this letter finds you in a state that is most agreeable with you, your spirit and state of life. Yes, I know it’s been a while since we last spoke, but I’m writing to tell you of the happenings in my life. I cannot tell you how busy and hectic it has become. Please know that I am no slacker and I take my work (writing) very seriously. I will post no reason or rhyme before its time. 🙂 Splitting care-giver duties while maintaining my obligation to God, self and Social Security has left me with additional page filled notebooks, empty ink pens, pencils down to the metal but little time to share. Today, I offer you my most sincerest apologies and will make an effort to do better. In the meantime, please enjoy this small gift, as a token of my appreciation for your continued support.

Always, your friend in pen,

EJ

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In my book Thread for Mending a Broken Soul, I wrote a passage about “They”. You know those sayings that are preceded with ‘well you know what they say’. I was always perplexed by the statement because as a child growing up, I wanted to know who “they” were because “they” seemed to know everything.

“They” say, it’s not whether you win or lose, but how you play the game. Well, what if you never really knew how to play? As for winning and losing, baseball dispels this theory with each replacement of a pitcher. It is the only profession where multiple people can be fired and replaced on the spot, and in public view no less.

“They” say, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Actually, Nietzsche said this, but did he consider Newton’s Third Law ‘to every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction’. While circumstances, trials and tribulations make us strong in some, if not all areas/aspects of life, what has been weakened as a result of us having auditioned for the role of Atlas? (who by the way held up the sky, not the earth – but still a hard job).

“They” say, sticks and stones may break my bones but words/names will never hurt me. “They” need to tell that to all the people who suffer from verbal assault and abuse.

“They” say, in America, there are 3 things you never discuss/talk about: Money/Sex (depending on whose doing the talking), Politics and Religion. I’m guessing the reason “They” say this is because when it comes to politics and religion, “They” are so busy trying to convince the listener that he/she is wrong for their choice. As for money, people may not know exactly how much a person makes, but you can pretty much (but not always – keep that in mind) surmise the tax bracket a person may fall in if you interact with them enough to see the fruits of their labor. As for sex, well, if you are having it, do you really need to talk about it and if you aren’t, do you really want to talk about it?

“They” said and still say lots of things. I’ve always shied away from “They” because I don’t know them so I can’t be sure their repository of knowledge is legit. For all I know, “They” could be like me or you, someone who has the gift of word manipulation, a Shakespearean Jim Jones, ladling up all the literary Kool-Aid one can drink.

KANPAI!