Soul to Soul

One sure fire way to tell a writer is the number of notebooks, excess scraps of paper, iPad notes, etc., that are filled with enough words, sentences, paragraphs and such to fill a small library.  You have to get it down, Maxwell style: Whenever, Wherever, Whatever.  At least that’s the way it is for me because my writing isn’t of me.  So imagine the chuckles, questions and the outright mindblowing conversation I engaged in when this thought was placed in my head/on my heart.  Psalm 23, particularly, the beginning.  The L-rd is my Shepherd, I shall not want.  Really?  Really.  C’mon  Papa’, we all want something, even Jesus wanted and still wants.  Right now or then, when you gave me this thought, I wanted to get it out and down but it wasn’t time.  Whenever I pray, I want, to be closer to you.  When I’m in distress, I want, you to be close to me.  Seems I really do live in the Land of Plenty and in Want.  I think you like it that way.  You are so funny.

The very fact that I acknowledge that I want may mean I really don’t because I really do have all I need.  If all I want, is all I need. And all I need, is all I want; well everything is canceled out and I’m no better, no worse, I’m just fine.  Yeah, I don’t always feel fine because life here on Earth can be pretty rough some times and it gets hard to remember that what I want and what I need are one in the same.

“Back to life. Back to reality…However do you want me.  However do you need me.”  Is that a question or a statement? Who’s doing the asking/making the statement?  Is it the Shepherd or the sheep?  Both want something.  IJS.

Take this past weekend.  I wanted a different outcome, didn’t get it.  I want peace on Earth. I want, I want, I want.  And don’t tell me that’s not what it means.  Want, as it relates to the humanity, only has 1 definition.  Wanting, like quitting, gets a bad name.  You have to put it in perspective, that’s why there is more than one translations besides the KJV.  Still, it’s true that when you examine what you have, you’ll find you have what you need and what you need is actually, what you want.  Maybe, lol.  Papa’ sure is funny.


You sure do ask a lot of questions

I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook.  I’m getting more comfortable with it but in the beginning, I was utterly resistant to it.  I’ve come to see it for what it is, a communication tool, TV reinvented – the new face of news reporting complete with commercials and infomercials, and like Playboy, it’s read for the articles.

So, one day, while watching “TV”, I came across this “sitcom” titled “Break Time w/Michael Jr.” and it’s about a stand-up comedian who, in the middle of his comedy routine, takes a break to interact with his audience.  It was episode 5 – “Amazing Grace” that prompted me to the show to my favorites.  In this episode, Micheal Jr. asks an audience member his occupation (music teacher (i believe)) and asks him to sing Amazing Grace.  The gentleman complies and does a very nice rendition.  After the round of applause, Michael Jr. then instructs the gentleman to sing Amazing Grace as if he’s singing it for one of his homies based on a scenario I cannot recollect right now.  In his second rendition, clearly, the gentleman is tapping into the very essence of “why” he is singing because people are breaking into applause and standing up waving their hands and yes, he brought cherch up in that auditorium.  Michael Jr. then remarked that when you figure out why you’re doing what you’re doing, it takes on a whole new meaning.

Growing up as an only, my “whys” were always encouraged.  Asking questions is the only way we learn.  It is how we educate ourselves and elevate ourselves from the murky levels of ignorance.  Today, and I’m sure some of us may have encountered this in our lives at least once before, we often hear children being told – “stop asking so many questions.”  I recall a “regular TV commercial” where a little girl is engaged in a conversation with an adult and for every answer the adult gives, she responds with “why.”  Now, I cannot recall the ending but that part has always stuck with me.  For me, why is the motive and motive is often given a bad name but it’s just another name for purpose.

When we understand “why”, we are better able to fulfill the “what” within the “why”.  In fulfilling the what, we often derive greater joy through the why and thus elevate ourselves out of ignorance.

Each time I take pen to paper, fingers to keys, voice to recorder, I often ask myself, why exactly and I doing this and no sooner as I’ve finished the last letter, the answer reveals itself.  It’s what I was born to do.

During this Advent Season, find your why.

What ails ya.

Ephesians 5:28-29

I saw this on the opening credits of a Netflix film and had to share as it made me think of the book listed underneath.

“Each gifted man needs a gifted woman to help him to fulfill his objective, destiny and purpose in life. The male and the female should be of one mind in doing the work of God.” -Anonymous

Women are Kingmakers” – Wellington Boone

Guess now you know why it’s called Kingdom building.  Sadly, some women don’t know how to make kings and even sadder is some men don’t want to be kings.  The book I referenced is a quick read but it is so powerful that you might not be ready for it.  I wasn’t. Got to a certain point and papa’ and I were having a conversation and I had to put the book down.  Wasn’t ready for that part yet. See, if you know how to make a king, you can’t force the king to take the throne and far too many men abdicate the throne then get mad at the king for the rules they lay down.  Or, worse yet, the kingmaker is forced to play the role of king.  Sure, we are all kings in our own right but everything has a hierarchy.  Call it old fashion but a man is the head of the house.  A man’s home is his castle and castles have kings.  Kings take advice and counsel from the queen.  To have a happy castle the queen cannot take the role of king while the king is still able to rule.  There will be conflict.  To be king you have to want to be king.  Being king is a huge responsibility but with the right queen at your side your land will live in peace and harmony.

What I’ve come to understand is that the bible is one big puzzle that you have to link together.  28: “So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29: For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church,…”  When you add on “bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh” the puzzle starts to take shape.

If you let that steep in your mind and soul for a few: loving your wife as your own body.  In today’s society, some of us love ourselves so much we have no room for others because we love our body so much that that is all we show you.  NO hate or shade, I’m just point out the obvious.  If you’re a married man, ask yourself, “Do I love my wife like I love myself?”

I AM a kingmaker or at least I try to be.  Every woman’s king making skills are different but the common goal is the same.  If you’re a man, ask yourself, ‘Do I want to be a king?”  I use lowercase king because Jesus is the King of kings.  Who did you think he was referring to?

#ilovemyself  #knowyourrole  #stayinyourlane  #ilookgoodyoulookgood

What ails ya?

Of all the nerve

I CANNOT Do Anything.

As humans, we don’t like certain things; negativity and limitations rank high on the list. What I’m about to say may come across as negative and/or limiting but that is not my intent but I offer no apologies.

During a conversation with my dad I had a thought, voiced it and it stayed with me. Later that night, I couldn’t sleep because this thought was still on my mind sooo, I googled it and found some interesting information. I took this information and had another conversation with my dad and gave my thoughts on it and he his and oddly enough, he said he’d never looked at it that way.

Philippians 4:13, I’m sure everyone knows it but have you ever really thought about what it means? Chris DeRoco of has thought about it and he gives a nice explanation that is exactly what I was thinking. Again, I’m no theologian scholar, I’m just a sinner trying to make it in this world but Mr. DeRoco advises that what Paul meant is (and I’m paraphrasing) that when things are going well, we remain faithful to Christ and when things aren’t going well, we remain faithful to Christ. As I interpreted, the remaining faithful in all situations is where and when you receive strength from Christ.

Now, since I never REALLY understood it, I was mindful of its use. I have a running shirt with the scripture on it but honestly, I bought it because it gives me high visibility at night but I notice people use it a lot and for various reasons and that’s when it all came together for me. I saw a post from someone who was gearing up for her first race and she wrote of her anxiety and then followed it up with “I can do all things…” Now, as Mr. DeRoco points out and I whole heartedly agree, the scripture is not implying that whatever we want to accomplish, whatever we put our minds to we CAN DO because of Christ and we will be successful because I CAN DO. If that were the case, with all the praying saints around the world, wouldn’t we be in much better shape than we are now? I mean after all, it says, I can do ALL things, so ALL means just that, doesn’t it? Yes, there’s nothing too hard or impossible for G-d but there are things too hard and impossible for man (that’s another scripture) but as it pertains to this particular one; I (you nor me) CANNOT do all things. I mean, I can because I have the will, maybe some knowledge and strength but even those have limitations and when you have limitations, you cannot do all things. Yeah, yeah, we all know G-d is limitless but we’re not talking about him, we’re talking about ourselves and humans have limits, do we not?

By no means as I saying I’m correct (although I probably am 🙂 ) but it does and should give you pause. Take the sport of Triathlon. Doing 3 different disciplines back to back to back requires a great deal of training (knowledge and strength) and will. Depending on the distance, you need more strength (mental and physical) than others. So, if just 10 athletes (out of all the hundreds) doing a 140.6 distance subscribe to Philippians 4:13 and for whatever reason 5 DNF, what happened to the strength they received from Christ? I don’t know about you but it would make me stop and wonder, as it did.

Honestly, I do believe that I can do all things and it is because of Christ. I can do all things because I have knowledge, wisdom, courage, understanding and faith and even a lil bit of physical strength and it was all given to me by G-d, through Christ, so I guess I was wrong, huh. I’m not too familiar with the sensation.

Life Anonymous: Hands up, now get your hands up! (Fat Man Scoop voice)

Step 3 – Surrender

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.

I love music. I have loved music since I first heard my daddy play (CD drops July 2014). Music is the religion that transcends like no other. My music palette unlike my food palette is plenty diverse. With the exception of some forms of bluegrass, I pretty much love music and it’s not so much the music itself as much as it the lyrics. I try to find the joy and God in all things, that includes music, even if it’s what they term “secular” music. All music, to me, is God’s music because it came from Him through us, so God must be secular too huh?

Any way, one of my favorites is Adele – One and only. Every time I hear this song, I imagine God and I having a conversation. I’m hesitant but I start by saying…

You’ve been on my mind, I grow fonder every day
Lose myself in time just thinking of your face
God only knows why it’s taken me so long to let my doubts go
You’re the only one that I want
I don’t know why I’m scared, I’ve been here before
Every feeling, every word, I’ve imagined it all,
But I’ll never know, if I never try to forget my past and let you be mine

What a humbling way to admit how much you need and want God. What courage it takes to exercise the will to give your will over to something else, someone else greater than you. Think about it. If all the decisions were made for you and always in your favor, wouldn’t you turn that over to someone? I miss not having to decide what I’m going to eat or wear or where I’m going to go for vacation or things like that. Man, kids have it made.

Being the loving Father that he is, he replies (and there is paraphrasing);

If I’ve been on your mind, you hang on every word I say
Lose yourself in time at the mention of my name
Will I ever know how it feels to hold you close
And have you tell me whichever road I choose you’ll go
I know why you’re scared ’cause I’ve been here before
Every feeling, every word, I’ve imagined it all
You’ll never know if you never try
To forget your past and simply be mine
I dare you to let me be your, your one and only
Promise I’m worthy to hold in your arms
So come on and give me a chance
To prove I am the one who can walk that mile
Until the end starts
Nobody’s perfect
(I know it ain’t easy giving up your heart)
Trust me, I’ve learned it

So I dare you to let me be your, your one and only
I promise I’m worthy to hold in your arms
So come on and give me a chance
To prove I am the one who can walk that mile
Until the end starts

He truly does know what its like to give up your heart. He’s been there. He’s walked a mile in our shoes and despite all the baggage and blisters, He is still willing to walk miles with us, right up until the very end. We have framily that won’t carry us a mile more less walk a mile with us or for us.

I may not read my bible everyday. I may not get in all my devotions but every day that I listen to this song and let the tears flow because He knows my struggle, my frustrations, my confusion and just in case He doesn’t I’m sure to let him know, and He knows it’s rocky on my journey to perfection and still He walks with me and stands waiting to hold me in his arms, all the while daring me to let Him be my One and only.

Do you hold on to things you should surrender and surrender things you should hold on to? It happens, were human but if He’s not your One and Only, why not give it a try? What’ve you got to lose? If He is your One and Only, keep your hands up!