There aren’t too many shows I watch but there are a few, among them Grace and Frankie. Two women who, by societal standards, are in their golden years and find themselves single due to divorce. Grace reunites with a love but there’s a catch – he’s married, but, his wife is terminal. What’s a man to do? He’s cared/caring for her but he has no companionship, none. Isn’t that one of the perks of being married – companionship. I sat and pondered the question presented to Grace – should she engage in a relationship with Dude? I saw here wrestle with it, go into the chapel and pray about it. Is it wrong? Is it merely giving into the flesh? Where does the obligation end? I found it quite interesting and for a moment, gave thought to what I’d do. Can’t really say. There’s something soulfully sad to have someone there/present and be utterly alone.
In Grace’s case, I’m not sure it was even about sex. They appeared to enjoy each others company and maybe that’s all it was about, companionship. Don’t we all need someone to talk to, to share our lives with? Yes, we have Jesus, but it is not good for man to be alone. Just because the body is there, are we to find comfort in that? Such a difficult, yet rhetorical question. For some, it’s obvious. As Frankie says – “The vows say in sickness and in health” but there’s another part “As long as we both shall live.” The live part is debatable. Are you really living? Is it possible to keep your vows – to love, honor, cherish, in sickness and in health, til death do you part – while not dying yourself? Does the sickness of one mean the death of the other? Does self preservation not have a say?
Again, it ain’t about the sex. It’s about having someone there to attend to the needs. But won’t Jesus attend to all your needs? Surely, but again, we are charged to go forth and love one another. Can that be done in the midst of another’s sickness? It does give you pause, or at least it should. When, exactly, does death occur? Is it merely the cessation of all functions, it is the soul leaving the body, or is it the soul trapped in a lifeless body?
I don’t have any answers. I’ve never found myself in that situation but I find it profoundly sad and complex. Til, is a long time. #whatailsya