Step 1: We admitted that we were powerless over our dependencies – that life had become unmanageable.
“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” (Ghandi)
“I think, therefore I am.” (Descartes)
We’ve all heard that line in some form or fashion. The bible says “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” I’m guessing they all got it from Jesus but regardless, it is a really powerful statement when you think about it.
Let’s break Step 1 down, shall we.
Now wait a minute, your dependencies ain’t like mine. Sorry to break it to you but everyone has dependencies. Anything that you need for support, rely on for aid and/or that you can/are influenced or conditioned by, is a dependency. If you have a job, you are dependent on that job to help provide for your family or self (dependents). The benefits from that job influence your decisions to make purchases. Your dependency on the job conditions you to perform at the expected level in an effort to ensure continued dependency. Dependency isn’t limited to alcohol and/or drugs. Being “set in your ways”, narrow-minded, or uncompromising are the result of ideals we’ve conditioned ourselves to. From the air we breathe, the food we eat, the cars we drive to the houses we live in and everything in them, we are dependent on something or someone else other than ourselves. Dependency is a cycle, whether or not it is vicious, depends on the dependee.
Defined as: not submitting to discipline; unruly; difficult to keep under control or within limits. In other words, a mess: A HotAssMess.
Put everything together and we have admitted that we were powerless over our dependencies (whatever we rely on for support, aid, and/or whatever we have become conditioned or influenced by) that our life had become unmanageable (undisciplined, unruly, out of control). Recognized and acknowledged that the HAM we are, be it sweet, spiraled, country or sliced, is the direct result of the thoughts that baked inside out hot little heads.
I’m no philosopher. I’m just a writer who likes to think. Have you or someone you know ever said “you think too much”? Thoughts are the precursors to action, so you can and should think much, long and hard. Everything that exists today does so because someone had a thought. I’m sure people probably told Steve Jobs… you think too much. Millions of Apple followers might disagree. Ever notice, especially with film and TV, how much credit producers get? EVERYbody wants to be a producer, why? Because the money isn’t in the idea, necessarily, but in the end result – the actual product: the hit song that goes multiplatinum, the TV show that scores the highest ratings. A thought without action is what? A thought with action is what?
If you (your life) have turned into a HAM, you did not do so overnight. Creating a HAM takes time. Our thinking (precursor) and subsequent doing (action) are the essential seasonings of life, too much or too little can make for a HAM not of your liking.
If we are what we eat, it most certainly stands to reason that we are what we think.
A regular application of Constant And Never-ending Improvement to our thoughts and actions may help reduce HAM flare-ups. Admitting and being powerless over our dependencies isn’t necessarily a bad or negative thing. It’s when our dependencies are the result of improper, immoral and/or unproductive thinking and the subsequent action that we take, result in us and possibly everything around us becoming a HAM that the power of those dependencies is magnified.
When we (our lives) become HAMs, we can often be heard lamenting, CANI get a break?
Thanks for the inspiration ahines3 🙂 Domo!!