Whoooo are you? (Absalom voice) Go ahead, say your name, I am… Now that you’ve said that, are you confident that is who you are? You sure? Ok, I’m just messing with you, but it does stop and make you think. Everything, wait, do I want to use such a all encompassing term?—ummm yeah, I do, Everything we know, we know because somebody told it to us. Think about it. You didn’t know you were (insert name) until these strangers around you keep referring to you by this moniker and it finally dawned on you that, hey, are they talking to me? Am I (insert name)? Everyone knew you were (insert name) long before you did. The hospital, people on FB, Twitter, OMG, ENews, all of them knew your name and birth date and gender long before you knew what any of that stuff was. Your entire life is based on hearsay. You heard someone say you were (insert name) and you believed it. 1 + 1 = 2 right? How do you know 1+1 = 3 isn’t right? Go ahead, say it, because it doesn’t because you were taught/told 1+1=2 and thus our drinking from the Jim Jones sippy cup of knowledge began. Our family origin has had an influence on who we are today, good or bad. Poor President Obama, he caught a ton of flack for his “you didn’t build it” comment, but I think I knew what he meant by that. Whatever you have, wherever you are in life, you didn’t get there by yourself, you had help, regardless to how much or how little, you had some kind of help from somebody and everything has a trickle down effect. Because of the internet, wordpress and computers, artists like you and I have a public venue to create, without them, we’d probably be typewriting words and putting up our work at local shops on the community board. We live under the influence, all of us do and it’s ok, to a certain degree. It’s all right to admit the truth about what brought us to our current station in life (good or bad). If more bad than good, which is often the case that gets the most attention, others may have played a great role in us getting and being at our current station in life and if so, it’s all right to express our anger and regret over what’s been done to us. We have a right to hold others accountable and grieve over the negative effects they have had on our life. It’s not all right to use this as an excuse for our wrong choices or for staying in a bad/fruitless/useless station. They may be partly responsible for bringing us to this place, but we are responsible for moving on to a better place for ourselves. I’m sure you can or have in the past, thought someone was to blame for something that went wrong in your life. Politicians do it all the time… Are you better off now than you were 4 years ago? That is not a question that just applies to elections. Are you better off now than you were 4 minutes ago? Sure you are, because for every moment that you live, the next one is more perfect. I hear people complaining all the time about this isn’t right because of this person or because they don’t have this or didn’t have that and blah blah blah blah blah. I subscribe to the SUPs Theory: Shut-up and Suck it up, please. McDonald’s straws are best. When you stop living under undue influence, you can find the time To Relax, Get Comfortable, and you know the rest.